Be Period Prepared With Modibodi

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If you are someone who has a period, you’ll know that, no matter how long you’ve been having them, they still take you by surprise. I’ve worked out that I’ve had around 270 periods in my life, I track them, I know when they’re due, I should be a period PRO, yet I’ve never quite mastered the art of preparation.

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"Sensual Full Brief" - Modibodi

’m what’s known in the industry as a “Sweaty Sleeper” and sanitary towels just don’t work for me and my hotter-than-the-sun body so I’ve always been on the look out for a solution that will be comfortable yet avoid the nighttime leakage (We’ve all been there). Luckily, @modibodiaustralia are a fab brand now available in the UK, who offer a range of extremely cute period pants to solve this issue amongst many others. 

A couple of years ago, I’d have been a bit put off by the idea of Period Pants but since the market has shifted in the way I see sustainability alongside breaking the taboos of menstruation, I was all for giving them a go. Modibodi use breathable fabrics to avoid the sweat issue, alongside an extremely slim (3mm) lining to avoid any leakage. The briefs pictured can be used alone on light-medium period days, and as a back up on heavy period days.

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As someone who’s trying to think more about the impact I have on the planet around me, moving away from the sanitary products I’ve traditionally used is becoming increasingly important and @modibodiaustralia offer an extremely attractive solution.

The pants go from a size 8 - 24 and are available in a variety of aesthetically appealing styles. Be sure to check out the “Modibodi Gives Back” page of their website - These guys are really making a difference. 

They’d also like to offer you 10% off purchases using my code: THEEMEDIT*
*T&Cs: Code cannot be used in conjunction with any other offer. Excludes discount on bundle packs, gift cards and clearance items as these are already discounted. One code per person.

Em x

The Range We All Deserve - Danielle Vanier x Navabi

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One of the greatest things about blogging and social media-ing is that I’ve met some incredible women; Women with vision, talent and the drive to make things happen. I’m sure you’ll all agree that Danie Vanier is one of these women. We all have our own styles and “fashion” is incredibly subjective but one thing I can tell you is that for as long as I’ve known about plus size style, I’ve been a big fan of Danie.
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Ponte Jersey Top* - Navabi X Danielle Vanier
Satin-Blend Frill Side Culottes* - Navabi X Danielle Vanier

Danie has such a recognisable style without ever being pigeonholed and this year has absolutely been her year to make just this accessible to the mainstream; Starting with a superb Marks and Spencer footwear collaboration and now gracing the rails of our fave stop for high end plus size fashion; Navabi. The range is insanely coherent - it’s simple, it’s modern, it’s unique, it’s just SO Danie.

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Each piece is designed in a way that allows you to slot it right into your existing wardrobe and style in a way that works for you, so when I was asked to select a piece for myself I was spoilt for choice. I ended up going with the Satin-Blend (SO SOFT) frill side culottes* and ponte jersey top* (SO LUXE) and this is how they look on me: Unique, fabulous and exactly what a plus size woman deserves.

I found the fit to be very true to size and am really impressed on how well thought out the proportions are, both as standalone items but also together. I just added a belt to break the block monochrome up a little bit and of course, some huge earrings because that's the extent of my ability to successfully accessorise.

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Well done Danie and Navabi on a truly brilliant range, I hope we get to see much more of the same in the future.
Em x
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Bring On The Self Love With Simply Be

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HOW IS IT NEARLY VALENTINES DAY AGAIN?!? The day of romance, chocolates and (in my case) sausage, chips and beans at Morrisons. Something I've learnt about love and romance and all that jazz is that there is utterly no point whatsoever in expecting to be happy in a relationship if you're not happy with yourself. 

So much of what makes me happy now is not having a reliance on other peoples' opinions of me. Of how I look or how much they value my existence. I like who I am, and even on my worst days I know that I'm doing my best. 

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Lauren Lace Plunge Midi Bra - Simply Be [Gifted Item] Available up to a 48DD
Lauren Lace Brazilian Briefs - Simply Be [Gifted Item] Available up to a 26

Sometimes self-love comes from acknowledging your limitations and moving onto the next thing. 
Sometimes self-love comes from a full face of makeup and some banging selfies. 
Sometimes self-love comes from eating something covered in cheese. 
Sometimes self-love comes from putting on some really beautiful lingerie and admiring all of the gorgeous things that make your body so unique. And, for me, embracing that uniqueness, both physically and in all the other elements that make you YOU, is your real power in self-love and happiness. 

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For those of you not planning to spend the evening in a Supermarket cafe, Simply Be have got us covered on the lingerie front with a range, that is not only beautiful but also available in an increasingly extending size range; Some lines go from A - L cup and up to a 56 back, the ones I am featuring below go up to a 48DDI know personally how much effort has gone into ensuring new ranges are both well fitting and current so I was very excited to be giving it a bit of a trial, starting with the Lauren set. 

The Lauren bra fits like an absolute dream, and it LOOKS (albeit in my eyes) PHENOMENAL. I could walk around the house in it all day, the support is spot on, the coverage is perfect and, most excitingly, it's just £20. If you take into account the briefs being just £12, £32 for the whole set is frankly ridiculous. 

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The briefs are beautifully soft and clearly designed with curves in mind which makes them a dream to wear, but honestly, I cant stop thinking about this bra! You know how much I love a longline and I just really, really enjoy wearing this one. I'm very much looking forward to finding ways to show off the bra under sheer tops and dresses, or just by itself because something this gorgeous deserves to be seen.

Next up is the Figleaves Curve Fever set, because if you cant wear red on Valentines Day, when CAN you wear it please? 

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Figleaves Fever Balconette Bra - Simply Be [Gifted Item] Available up to a 48DD 
Figleaves Fever Brazilian Briefs - Simply Be [Gifted Item] Available up to a 26 
Figleaves Fever Suspender Belt - Simply Be [Gifted Item] Available up to a 26

I. Feel. So. Sexy. In. This. Set. 
Word to the wise with these briefs; Size up. I think I was bamboozled by the low-slung ness of them (Perfect for under the suspender belt) but I think I'd feel more comfortable in something a bit bigger wedgie-wise (Just a personal knicker preference) Size aside, I'm very into the cut-out feature at the back and the floral detailing.

For me, the real hero of this set is the Balconette Bra - The quarter cup padding, sheer mesh cup and shoulder detailing all come together to make a truly beautiful piece of lingerie whilst offering the kind of support and comfort you would never expect from something so utterly lovely. 

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Whichever way you look at it, thanks to Simply Be, I'm all set for Valentines day on the lingerie-front. Now all I need to do is hope Cupid brings me a card...
Em x

Five Minutes on Validity

You all know that I have A LOT of thoughts when it comes to children and making children and growing children and having children and raising children etc etc. 

So this is a bit of an update around my thoughts on the validity of womanhood when it comes to children. The next step in my odd little journey along the road of adulthood if you will (You'd imagine I'd be getting it right by now...)

I just want to clarify in advance that anything I say is by no means someone without a child digging out those women WITH children. Quite the contrary. Mothers are INCREDIBLE. There are times when I look at my sister and think "HOW ARE YOU DOING THIS?!?" (Usually when she's covered in green stuff that could have come from literally any part of my niece) Plus, I would never judge any decision someone else has made when it comes to their body, lives and offspring - It is simply none of my business.
When we TALK about things, we start to realise there are people out there who have been thinking about the same things but with different experiences, which I, for one, find incredibly useful. I want to be tolerant, I don't want to be entirely wrapped up in my own understandings based on just how things make ME feel. Strangely enough, being angry doesn't make me happy and because I'm the kinda chick who rarely tells people when I'm offended or upset by their actions, the anger quickly transforms into an overwhelming feeling of loneliness. 

So I went on instagram and I talked about it. I talked about how I regularly feel that I'm somehow not seen as valid or included in society due to my choice to not yet have children (If at all). I mentioned the number of times I found myself excluded from events and invites purely due my childlessness. About how not being a mother somehow suggests that you're lacking in wisdom, experience and ability. 

And the response was phenomenal. 

I received hundreds of messages, from women at all stages of life, sharing their experiences, feelings and some truly incredible advice. And all of a sudden I wasn't alone. MAGIC RIGHT?!? With this in mind, I'd really like to share (with permission) some of the words that impacted me the most. So if you're in a quandary, WE CAN ALL BE IN IT TOGETHER. 

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There seems to be some wider assumption that a family has to include children, but I'm really big on "Family" being whatever you make it. My immediate family is my husband and me. And the cats obvs. Families can be you and your parents, it can be you and a friend, it can be you and your case of stick insects. Family for me is the tightest circle of living things you have wrapped around you and I am incredibly fortunate to be close to my parents and sister who will always be family. 

As for "Selfish" UGH, this is one thing that really blags my swede. Firstly, not's let forget that not everyone is child-free through choice. Plus, what's selfish about not having children? Why is emotional labour only valid when it's directed towards the under 16s? I care SO deeply for the people in my life and I'm generally too busy doing all of the things I do in a day to be selfish, its a wonder if I've washed my hair nowadays...

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"Focussing on your career". As if this is the only way to justify not having children. As if the only important things in life for a woman are work or motherhood. Why the heck are we having to justify our existence in this way? We exist because we do. Why the sudden need when we hit our mid-20s to take on some kind of societal role...? 

I had an interesting professional discussion around flexible working recently - Flexible working is incredible and has facilitated so many women being able to balance a career and childcare, but try and use it in any other way beyond child-based emergencies you may find yourselves coming up against issues. We've all been there; It's quite rightly deemed vital that a parent-child relationship is facilitated by the workplace, but the relationships we have with our partners and friends (Which at times are life-saving) are given short shrift. 

And it's not just the people without children who notice the difference:
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I find it kind of selfishly comforting to know that new mothers recognise the difference in the way that society treats a woman with children, but, more importantly, it is so vital for us to be reminded that mums (particularly new mums) seek out other mums for support and its not unfair to assume that quite often this support is enhanced by experience, experience someone without a child simply doesn't have. And that's ok, I wouldn't ask a doctor for advice on how to cut my hair. As long as we're not muscled out completely. I may not know about colic or nappy changing (At least not that I'm willing to admit to...) but I am an incredible listener, I'm great at pulling stupid faces and I will sing and dance for anybody who needs those particular services at any given time. 

Two of the most striking comments that I want to leave you with are these:
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Why are those of us in doubt feeling even a little bit obliged to do something that doesn't enhance our lives in any way? In most basic terms; We're not on the brink of extinction, the survival of the human race isn't dependent on people who are already quite happy adding to the population.

Part of me knows that some of you will be thinking  "Ok, we get it, you don't have children, get over it" and I can understand why you would. But it is SO important to me that we continue to have these conversations because if they've helped the likes of me as much as they have, they may help other people. So let's keep them going. 

We need to stop believing that not having a child makes us any less important. Or that our lives are any less full. We are valid, we are important, we are whole.

Please feel free to share some thoughts in the comments or over on my insta.

Em x